You can start a car in gear in a need. Best to start in neutral because that ensures the clutch is not engaged at all but if you really need to move, you can start in gear with the clutch completely pressed.
When you start in the morning, the car is cold, so that needle will be all the way down. Thats the engine water jacket temperature. As you use the engine, the engine warms up the jacket water and the needle moves. The cars' system is designed to keep the needle in the middle of the range, so if its doing that, thats very normal
Best to start your engine, settle in , put on your belt etc. More than a warm up, this gives time for the lube pump to push oil around the engine before it gets loaded
For the passanger side corner, if you are concerned, have a front guard installed with those vertical rods at the corners. That becomes your marker for distance. But if you dont want to do that, just leave a little gap so that bikers dont graze you. At night you can use your headlights to gauge the distance. At the end, its judgement and comes with time. There is one golden rule in driving I was told as a beginner- dont put your car into a gap if your gut tells you not to do it.
With regards to reverse, thats the lowest gear in your car. Even lower than the 1st gear. Is also the most powerful. IC engines have opposite torque-speed characteristics. So the reverse has a lot of torque but is not capable of a lot of speed. If its whining a lot, you are going backward too fast. But all reversing cars whine when reversing at some speed
Ameyam